Our great fear is public humiliation. Most people in the public eye stuff up occasionally. The Duke of Edinburgh, for example, is renowned for it. While we may not be in the public eye like the Duke we can still identify with his situation. At some time, we too have been guilty of hurting others […]
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If you have a fear of flying, look at the statistics here that outline your chance of dying in an air crash. You may feel reassured. If you don’t, you have control issues, based on a fear of death, and you need to learn to surrender.
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Many people have a fear of flying. Some feel claustrophobic, some feel out of control and quite a few suffer from both. Our approach may seem counter-intuitive, but when clients come to us with a fear of flying, We often take them into the fear. In many years of clinical practice, we have discovered that trying to counter fear […]
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Overspending at Christmas can turn a good time into a stressful time once all the celebrations are over. Emotionally healthy people do not overspend. They work out what they can afford and stick to it. They are over creative in their gift giving. Lack of money can actually drive creativity.
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Being criticised by your parents-in-law can be particularly disheartening. Young marrieds too often look up to their older relatives. You need to see the truth of such people to be able to get on with your life happily.
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Making a mistake can haunt us. We struggle to come to terms with our feelings of inadequacy and incompetence. But we can become more self-accepting. Self-acceptance brings peace.
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Beware the quiet and tolerant. They might seem sweet and remain calm for ages before one day you are hit with an explosion. Your sweet friend has turned into a bitch. And you wonder what is going on.
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Carrying insecurities from the past will prevent you building a lasting and satisfying relationship. Even though it is challenging to face and resolve your past hurts, it is always worthwhile.
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When you feel the ugly emotion of jealousy and confront your partner, he or she is unlikely to take your concerns seriously. Is your jealousy justified or are you just over-reacting? You need to step back and explore to find out.
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Intimidating work colleagues can ruin your work life. Work becomes about them rather than about you and the work you do. Once you have resolved your fears, however, you will wonder what all the fuss was about. This is what you need to do increase your inner strength…
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I am worried that my flatmate is anorexic and bulimic. She is getting very thin and she hardly eats. I accidentally found heaps of snack food hidden in her room. Curious, I kept checking and it all disappeared when I was out. I think she’s throwing up. Should I confront her? She keeps very much […]
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Humans: Maybe we have become too smart (or stupid) for our own good! Some theorists say that at some point in our evolution, our consciousness advanced to the stage where we confused the contents of our consciousness (thoughts, perceptions, feelings, sensations) for consciousness itself. This is like confusing the movie screen (consciousness) with the movie (content). […]
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We cannot NOT make mistakes, because we are human. Perfectionism leads us to reject our very humanity. We need to learn to embrace our imperfections.
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Many of us don’t act until we feel like taking action. This might work well in some areas of our lives, such as getting our hair cut. But if we wait for the right feeling before being kind to others, starting an exercise program, or practising more patience, we may never take the critical first step. We […]
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“Emotional discomfort, when accepted, rises, crests and falls in a series of waves. Each wave washes a part of us away and deposits treasures we never imagined. Out goes naiveté, in comes wisdom; out goes anger, in comes discernment; out goes despair, in comes kindness. No one would call it easy, but the rhythm of […]
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