Guest blog by Michelle Janssen The arrival of a newborn is a bundle of painful and beautiful contradictions. Love like you’ve never known amidst sleepless, anxious nights. Staring into their gorgeous eyes as you awkwardly navigate endless nappy changes, swaddling and trying to get into some sort of new routine – the sudden and unrelenting […]
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When we pore over the stand of cards before Valentine’s Day, looking for the one card which best reflects our feelings, we might wonder what is the basis of our relationship. Is it true, everlasting love? Or is it simply lust? Sometimes, our feelings are so strong that we are convinced that we have met […]
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“I met someone recently and we really clicked. It was all very intense. He told me he wasn’t looking for a relationship but all the signals he gave out were positive. Now we have drifted apart but he messages me and gives me mixed signals. We’ve both been hurt in the past and I think […]
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I am happily married but I have no interest in sex. My husband gets annoyed and I feel even more distant. I need some emotional intimacy before I can be sexually intimate. Is this unreasonable? It doesn’t really matter whether you think this is unreasonable or not. Your expectations are simply not being met. You […]
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Jealousy is one of the most difficult emotions to live with, whether you are the one who is jealous or the target of the jealousy. A jealous person harbours a deep inner insecurity. Digging this out and resolving it is possible but only if the jealous person is willing to look deeply inside him or herself.
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The research tells us there is such a thing as love at first sight and the couples who experience tend to build lasting relationships. Perhaps we should be putting more faith in this phenomenon.
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Making a long distance love work is difficult. A few couples manage to do it for a limited time but in the long term, hard decisions need to be taken. Sacrificing your career or security to be together only works if there is a lot of good will on the part of the one making the change. Sometimes you have to let go.
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When you feel the ugly emotion of jealousy and confront your partner, he or she is unlikely to take your concerns seriously. Is your jealousy justified or are you just over-reacting? You need to step back and explore to find out.
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Shared parenting is the starting point for separated partners but an angry parent will often try to sabotage this. The journey can be tough and expensive, but doing the right thing by your kids is important. If you are the parent missing out, your first step is…
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My girlfriend spends a lot of her time getting angry at her ex. I sympathised at first but after four months, it’s just as intense. She fumes whenever anything reminds her of him. How do I help her let go? One thing is for sure: you’re not helping her by being sympathetic. Right now, your girlfriend is stuck. […]
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I have really fallen for a man I have been going out with for six months. He just confessed that he lied to me in the beginning of our relationship. He had said he was completely unattached but the truth was he seeing another woman for the first two months we were going out. I […]
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My wife has just been transferred to another state for work. It is a promotion, and there is no question she should have taken it. I have no prospects in that city, so we have decided to have a long-distance relationship. We see each other most weekends, but I’m finding that I don’t want a […]
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Flirting is fabulous fun, when you are the flirt, but not so much fun when your partner is the flirt. Flirting initiates potential sexual relationships. You and your partner probably flirted with each other early in your relationship. Maybe you flirt just a little now. And if you do, you surely enjoy it. But what […]
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You have heard about commitment phobic people, that is, men and women who cannot commit to a relationship. But do you realise that too much commitment is also a problem? Too much commitment happens when someone goes into a relationship with absolute determination to make it work. There is nothing wrong with having a desire […]
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