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The “L” Word: Nearly 30% of Aussies Lonely

by Lynne Rodgers (of North Brisbane Psychologists) Lonely is a taboo word. To admit you feel lonely risks attracting pity or being perceived as a social failure. Yet loneliness is so common it is tipped to be a new public health epidemic. The UK Government has appointed a Minister for Loneliness in recognition of this […]

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Five Happiness Killers

Today I was invited onto ABC Radio in Brisbane to discuss happiness and “Happiness Killers”. A great deal of our thinking and behaviours as human beings create our suffering states, such as powerlessness, resentment, anger, exhaustion, anxiety, jealousy, depression and disappointment. This is my take on the term ‘happiness killers’. Below are the five Happiness Killers I spoke about at the ABC today.

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Can long distance love work?

Making a long distance love work is difficult. A few couples manage to do it for a limited time but in the long term, hard decisions need to be taken. Sacrificing your career or security to be together only works if there is a lot of good will on the part of the one making the change. Sometimes you have to let go.

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When is jealousy justified?

When you feel the ugly emotion of jealousy and confront your partner, he or she is unlikely to take your concerns seriously. Is your jealousy justified or are you just over-reacting? You need to step back and explore to find out.

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How do I manage an angry girlfriend?

My girlfriend spends a lot of her time getting angry at her ex. I sympathised at first but after four months, it’s just as intense. She fumes whenever anything reminds her of him. How do I help her let go? One thing is for sure: you’re not helping her by being sympathetic. Right now, your girlfriend is stuck. […]

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Can I trust him when he lied at the start of our relationship?

I have really fallen for a man I have been going out with for six months. He just confessed that he lied to me in the beginning of our relationship. He had said he was completely unattached but the truth was he seeing another woman for the first two months we were going out. I […]

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Can a long-distance relationship survive?

My wife has just been transferred to another state for work. It is a promotion, and there is no question she should have taken it. I have no prospects in that city, so we have decided to have a long-distance relationship. We see each other most weekends, but I’m finding that I don’t want a […]

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My wife has found God. Have I lost her?

My wife has recently found God. She has started going to church every Sunday and favours spending time with her co-believers rather than the friends we have made together. I feel very isolated as I don’t share her faith and I feel that her new interest is creating a wedge between us. You are right. […]

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What do I do when I haven’t got time for sex?

I love my husband and we have a good marriage of 8 years. Our only problem is sex. I can’t be bothered with it and I haven’t got the time. There is always so much else to be done. My girlfriends tell me they feel the same. Where has our sex drive gone? Don’t worry. […]

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Is flirting harmless?

Flirting is fabulous fun, when you are the flirt, but not so much fun when your partner is the flirt. Flirting initiates potential sexual relationships. You and your partner probably flirted with each other early in your relationship. Maybe you flirt just a little now. And if you do, you surely enjoy it. But what […]

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Can a holiday romance last?

Have you ever experienced a holiday romance that swept you off your feet? You watch the sun set on a perfect day. You have spent it with your new holiday lover. Together, you frolicked on the beach, held hands, made promises with your eyes and parted so reluctantly no one would ever guess you’re meeting […]

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Your Partner: Ally or Adversary?

Being in a long-term relationship is challenging.  It is inevitable that you will sometimes slip into cycles of withdrawing (sulking or silent treatment) and of being adversarial (defending or attacking). This is your natural fight-or-flight instinct taking hold. How partners cope with these cycles determines the quality of the relationship and, indeed, whether the relationship […]

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How To Have A Healthy Relationship

First, let’s start with how NOT to have a healthy relationship. 1. Blame and criticise the other person: Make sure you include denigrating judgements such as arrogant, uncaring, insensitive, inconsiderate, manipulative, irresponsible, or autocratic. Labels and put-downs contain no useful information, so you’re guaranteed to stop the other person from learning anything useful. 2. Deny […]

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