Conflict is so very human. We all experience it regularly, sometimes quite minor, sometimes major! Think about the last time you dealt with interpersonal conflict… How did you behave and react? How did you feel? What role did you play in the conflict? How did you perceive yourself and others? The “Drama Triangle” is a […]
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When we pore over the stand of cards before Valentine’s Day, looking for the one card which best reflects our feelings, we might wonder what is the basis of our relationship. Is it true, everlasting love? Or is it simply lust? Sometimes, our feelings are so strong that we are convinced that we have met […]
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“I met someone recently and we really clicked. It was all very intense. He told me he wasn’t looking for a relationship but all the signals he gave out were positive. Now we have drifted apart but he messages me and gives me mixed signals. We’ve both been hurt in the past and I think […]
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It can be very easy for us to believe that the only thing that is needed to keep a relationship going is love. It’s not something I would blame you for believing, it seems to be the message of every romantic comedy or croony love song. But in reality, love is messy, couples fight, and […]
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by Lynne Rodgers (of North Brisbane Psychologists) Lonely is a taboo word. To admit you feel lonely risks attracting pity or being perceived as a social failure. Yet loneliness is so common it is tipped to be a new public health epidemic. The UK Government has appointed a Minister for Loneliness in recognition of this […]
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Today I was invited on ABC Radio Brisbane to discuss the importance of quality couples’ time, especially for couples with children. Here are my “hot tips” on connecting after kids…
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Today I was invited onto ABC Radio in Brisbane to discuss happiness and “Happiness Killers”. A great deal of our thinking and behaviours as human beings create our suffering states, such as powerlessness, resentment, anger, exhaustion, anxiety, jealousy, depression and disappointment. This is my take on the term ‘happiness killers’. Below are the five Happiness Killers I spoke about at the ABC today.
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The research tells us there is such a thing as love at first sight and the couples who experience tend to build lasting relationships. Perhaps we should be putting more faith in this phenomenon.
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Making a long distance love work is difficult. A few couples manage to do it for a limited time but in the long term, hard decisions need to be taken. Sacrificing your career or security to be together only works if there is a lot of good will on the part of the one making the change. Sometimes you have to let go.
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When you feel the ugly emotion of jealousy and confront your partner, he or she is unlikely to take your concerns seriously. Is your jealousy justified or are you just over-reacting? You need to step back and explore to find out.
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My girlfriend spends a lot of her time getting angry at her ex. I sympathised at first but after four months, it’s just as intense. She fumes whenever anything reminds her of him. How do I help her let go? One thing is for sure: you’re not helping her by being sympathetic. Right now, your girlfriend is stuck. […]
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I have really fallen for a man I have been going out with for six months. He just confessed that he lied to me in the beginning of our relationship. He had said he was completely unattached but the truth was he seeing another woman for the first two months we were going out. I […]
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My wife has just been transferred to another state for work. It is a promotion, and there is no question she should have taken it. I have no prospects in that city, so we have decided to have a long-distance relationship. We see each other most weekends, but I’m finding that I don’t want a […]
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My wife has recently found God. She has started going to church every Sunday and favours spending time with her co-believers rather than the friends we have made together. I feel very isolated as I don’t share her faith and I feel that her new interest is creating a wedge between us. You are right. […]
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I love my husband and we have a good marriage of 8 years. Our only problem is sex. I can’t be bothered with it and I haven’t got the time. There is always so much else to be done. My girlfriends tell me they feel the same. Where has our sex drive gone? Don’t worry. […]
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