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Five Happiness Killers

Today I was invited onto ABC Radio in Brisbane to discuss happiness and “Happiness Killers”. A great deal of our thinking and behaviours as human beings create our suffering states, such as powerlessness, resentment, anger, exhaustion, anxiety, jealousy, depression and disappointment. This is my take on the term ‘happiness killers’. Below are the five Happiness Killers I spoke about at the ABC today.


We are all control freaks! Cognitive skills for finding balance

Set yourself free by recognising this one tendency we all share and how it can go awry. Life is to be lived, not controlled. Like a surfer in the waves, we need to respond to life, not stress ourselves managing and controlling it all.


Six Principles of Emotional Self-care

This post explains the importance of inner self-care and what it involves.


Working with Emotional Discomfort

“Emotional discomfort, when accepted, rises, crests and falls in a series of waves. Each wave washes a part of us away and deposits treasures we never imagined. Out goes naiveté, in comes wisdom; out goes anger, in comes discernment; out goes despair, in comes kindness. No one would call it easy, but the rhythm of […]


Can you choose how you feel?

If it was easy to choose how you feel, I assume you would always choose to feel good. Since you don’t always feel good, you are not easily able to choose how you feel. However you can begin a process to increase your ability to feel good more often. I believe our feelings are guidance. […]


How to Develop Emotional Freedom

  Are you emotionally reactive? Do you sometimes feel emotionally out of control? If so, you lack what I call “emotional freedom.” Others might call this emotional intelligence. You have emotional freedom when: You are fully aware of your emotions. You accept the emotions that arise within you. You value your emotions. You trust your […]