Being with an emotionally and physically expressive partner can be challenging especially when you come from a family where this is not the norm.
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How do I cope after losing everything?
I lost all my possessions in a fire a few weeks ago. I started to cry when the fireman pulled me up saying it could’ve been worse. I haven’t cried since but I can’t be bothered with anyone or anything including work. No one expects all her possessions to disappear so suddenly. You are shocked […]
Read more...How do I deal with my difficult hurtful mother?
Having an unsatisfactory relationship with your mother is deeply disappointing. You cannot change her, but you can change how you react to her. It takes some work but it is worthwhile. You can have a peaceful relationship with your mother.
Read more...Facts to counter your fear of flying
If you have a fear of flying, look at the statistics here that outline your chance of dying in an air crash. You may feel reassured. If you don’t, you have control issues, based on a fear of death, and you need to learn to surrender.
Read more...Fear of flying
Many people have a fear of flying. Some feel claustrophobic, some feel out of control and quite a few suffer from both. Our approach may seem counter-intuitive, but when clients come to us with a fear of flying, We often take them into the fear. In many years of clinical practice, we have discovered that trying to counter fear […]
Read more...I want to be assertive
Unassertive people don’t share themselves with others. They keep quiet or say what they think others want to hear. They are afraid to speak their truth. But if you are not being open and honest, how can anyone know you? There are good reasons to put effort into learning to be more assertive.
Read more...Family loss or conflict at Christmas
How realistic is family togetherness at Christmas? How many of us realise the dream and have loving, positive interactions with our relatives without any tension or discord? And how many of us have all the important members of our family present? Christmas can bring grief, sadness, estrangement and conflicts.
Read more...Oh no! My critical mother-in-law is to visit.
Having a critical mother-in-law visit can be painful if you have any doubts about yourself and take her criticisms seriously. Once you feel comfortable in yourself, she cannot sting you. You understand her need to criticise and can easily deflect her negativity.
Read more...How to avoid financial stress at Christmas
Overspending at Christmas can turn a good time into a stressful time once all the celebrations are over. Emotionally healthy people do not overspend. They work out what they can afford and stick to it. They are over creative in their gift giving. Lack of money can actually drive creativity.
Read more...How do I deal with alcohol addiction?
Alcohol addiction is far too common. Alcohol relaxes our tense muscles and helps us forget our problems. It’s easy to see why it is so addictive. But it also damages our bodies and kills off our brain cells. If we really want to avoid discomfort, especially in the long term, we will value our health.
Read more...Giving and receiving gifts
How we receive gifts can reveal some of our innermost feelings about our self worth. Some people have to reciprocate. Some do not. Some accept graciously and some are critical of the gift. How do people with high self worth respond?
Read more...Giving up cigarettes
What is the most effective way to give up an addiction like smoking? There is a technique that some psychologists and doctors use called motivational interviewing. Research has shown this technique to be as effective as hypnosis. The psychologist or doctor helps the client clarify the reasons she smokes and why she wants to give […]
Read more...No interest in sex
I am happily married but I have no interest in sex. My husband gets annoyed and I feel even more distant. I need some emotional intimacy before I can be sexually intimate. Is this unreasonable? It doesn’t really matter whether you think this is unreasonable or not. Your expectations are simply not being met. You […]
Read more...He promised to call but he didn’t
Over the last two years, I’ve been dating different guys. None of them felt right. Then I met the one who did. There was a real spark between us and I never doubted for a minute that he wouldn’t call when he said he would. He wasn’t one of those smooth operators, in fact, he […]
Read more...He left me for a younger woman
I noticed some men leave a long-term relationship for a younger woman. It seems so wrong. What do you think? Imagine you have devoted the last twenty years to raising your family and you are looking forward to finally spending some quality time with your husband. Then, suddenly, out of the blue, he leaves you […]
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