The Paradoxical Nature of Emotional and Physical Pain: The Quicksand Metaphor

When you fall into quicksand, your gut reaction is to struggle and swim to safety. Your fight-flight instincts will make you want to run away or fight it. However, both running and fighting will only make you sink faster. Trying to run from or fight off an experience INSIDE you, such as pain, will not […]


Why Cry?

“Crying is good”, I say to my clients. “You gotta cry!” I just googled “songs with the word cry in the title” and I found several dozen in one minute. But this important adaptation that humans have developed, while widely accepted in our music and literature, is seldom revered in daily life. I am surprised […]