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Low Self-Confidence and Self-Discipline

When you don't do what you promised, you will develop low self-confidence. Self-discipline is  an important component of building self-confidence.
When you don’t do what you promised, you will develop low self-confidence. Self-discipline is an important component of building self-confidence.

There is a close relationship between low self-confidence and lack of discipline. In a previous post Self-Confidence I explained the importance of following through on your commitments. Whenever you don’t, your self-confidence suffers.

There are reasons people don’t follow through on their commitments but most people avoid even thinking about these reasons. They know they did the wrong thing and just want to forget about it as quickly as possible. But that means nothing changes. The same pattern of behavior continues and the self-confidence continues to go down.

If we really want to know why we fail to keep commitments, we need to look closely at our behavior.

When we fail to keep our promises, we find reasons to justify our slack behavior. We believe these excuses. Superficially, we feel better about ourselves. But these are not the real reasons we fail to deliver.

The truth is we could keep nearly all of our commitments if we were willing. But we just do not want to pay the price required to fulfill our promises.

Most likely the price involves significant self-discipline. Most people want self-confidence without the discipline. They have been seduced by the easy path to self-confidence promoted by motivational speakers.

Most motivational speakers tell us that self-confidence is all about self-belief. They are right. Overcoming low self-confidence is about positive self-belief.

However these speakers don’t tell us the whole truth.

Where does self-belief come from? They would have us believe that all it takes is positive thinking and making daily positive affirmations.

They imply that our behavior doesn’t matter. Say and think positively, they suggest, and we will painlessly go from low self-confidence to being self-confident.

Do we really think that we can so easily fool ourselves? That we can make empty promises but as long as we keep saying we are great, we will feel self-confident?

We cannot lie ourselves into genuine self-confidence. The easy path the motivational speakers promote is a dead end. If we want genuine self-confidence, we need to be honest.

Affirmations are fine but for them to work, we need to follow up the affirmations with action that completely reflects those affirmations. That takes self-discipline.

 

5 thoughts on “Low Self-Confidence and Self-Discipline

  1. Motivation also comes from whom we look up to like celebrities because their achievements and struggles are known to every person because of their media coverage. Listening to these celebrity speakers is the key to get that motivation which really works unlike others.

  2. I totally agree! Self-confidence and self-discipline are highly related and there are many outside factors that need to be considered. I believe that motivation is key when it comes to self-confidence and self-discipline and listening to podcasts or videos of motivational speakers is a great idea for those that are suffering from these traits. There’s a wealth of motivational speaking material at http://www.motivationalspeakers.net.au that I find really useful.

  3. I hadn’t made such a clear connection between self-discipline and self-confidence before. This is very helpful. Thanks.

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